Praising our children to build self-esteem
Self-esteem is crucial to children’s happiness – it enables them to feel good, show respect for themselves and others, enjoy life, be ambitious, establish positive relationships and enjoy good health.
According to Jan Cranfield, Self Esteem Expert, the average child hears 432 negative statements per day compared to only 32 positive statements. Promoting self-esteem is so very important to ensure that children feel happy, loved and talented. It is what will enable them to go on to positively affect the lives of others and live a successful, joyous life themselves. Staying positive and being generous with praise is an essential habit for parents to adopt and will be the biggest influence in promoting a youngster’s self-esteem.
During my primary school teaching career, the most important subject for me to teach was PSHE (Personal, Social and Health Education). This is because children’s opinions of themselves, their relationships with others and their understanding of feelings and how to deal with them, are, in my opinion, the most important things that can ever be taught – I believe they’re the very things that will determine a child’s true happiness in life.
Self-esteem must be nurtured and tended. I witnessed children coming into my class in September with the ‘I can’t’ attitude; feeling they had nothing to offer and were no good at anything. Every child has something to offer whether it is being a talented artist, great sportsman, a wonderfully kind friend or a good problem solver. I simply discovered what they were good at and reminded them of it constantly through positive praise and acknowledgement. This quickly fed into other areas of their life and started to influence the children’s attitudes. Before long they gained confidence in themselves and in life. It never ceased to surprise me how quickly a child’s self worth could be positively turned around.
Parents and teachers are at the front line of promoting children’s self-esteem and can often bring about miraculous results. However, some children require additional support to uproot and remove the damaging, negative, opinions they hold about themselves. If needed, healing work may be the difference between a happy, healthy child and a depressed, demoralized child.
Here are some of the healing modalities you might wish to consider for children if you feel they need additional help:
• Crystal Healing
• Flower Essence Therapy
• Reiki Healing
In the coming weeks, these various therapies will be covered in detail in the Thursday health blog pieces on ‘Raising happy, healthy children’. This week we’ll be focusing on Crystal Healing. Hop to my blog about “Crystal healing for children”
Remember to always consult a licensed healthcare practitioner before embarking on any treatment, it’s your health and it’s IMPORTANT. Disclaimer
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